Post by SoSoScared on Sept 21, 2005 4:03:31 GMT -5
Is it just me, or does anyone else actually find themselves hating the very people who are trying to get them over their dental phobia?
I sometimes think I am going crazy cos the whole dental thing, when I need treatment, takes over my life.
Anyone who I discuss it with who says 'you will be fine' winds me up to the point where I start avoiding them. Even worse are those who happily go to the dentist with no fear on a regular basis.
I hate them for allowing themselves to be tortured (as I perceive it) and I think 'if a few more of you refused to go because of the treatment you will get and the pain/humiliation you will suffer something would be done about dental treatment for all our benefits'.
These people think me crazy when I actually try and talk them out of going because I don't want them to be hurt!!! I am trying to protect them and literally beg them not to go!
I have read widely on this board now and believe the 'abuse' aspect applies to me. It is not the pain/needles, etc. it is the laying back in the chair and being made to endure something I hate.
It has helped to see that much at least, but still I see those who are trying to encourage/help me as actual or potential abusers. I have ended friendships because of this.
Anyone think there is any hope for me? I have had treatment in the past and it has not hurt, but I have never been able to conquer my fear and as such leave it as long as possible. I know I need work done but even though the appointment is a month away it plays on my mind constantly.
I hate the dentist and I have not even met him yet, and I will hate the people in the waiting room for putting themselves through torture without complaining.
Recently I accused my best friend of child abuse as he is taking his 13 year old to have teeth removed to have a brace. This caused a huge argument because naturally he feels he is doing the best for this son, and the son seems quite happy about it.
I on the other hand want to make him cancel the appointment so that the lad is not hurt. I thought about never speaking to him again as I see him as a 'child abuser' - stupid I know but just how I feel.
Can anyone relate to any of this or am I crazy? Only reason for it I can think of is my father insisting on pulling out my baby teeth and I can remember being restrained for this to happen and it hurting. Now I feel that the dentist is holding me down and deliberately hurting me. Never for one moment occurs to me that he is trying to help me, only that he wants to make me suffer.
Sorry - long rant - but would be grateful for anyone's thoughts.
Thank you.
I sometimes think I am going crazy cos the whole dental thing, when I need treatment, takes over my life.
Anyone who I discuss it with who says 'you will be fine' winds me up to the point where I start avoiding them. Even worse are those who happily go to the dentist with no fear on a regular basis.
I hate them for allowing themselves to be tortured (as I perceive it) and I think 'if a few more of you refused to go because of the treatment you will get and the pain/humiliation you will suffer something would be done about dental treatment for all our benefits'.
These people think me crazy when I actually try and talk them out of going because I don't want them to be hurt!!! I am trying to protect them and literally beg them not to go!
I have read widely on this board now and believe the 'abuse' aspect applies to me. It is not the pain/needles, etc. it is the laying back in the chair and being made to endure something I hate.
It has helped to see that much at least, but still I see those who are trying to encourage/help me as actual or potential abusers. I have ended friendships because of this.
Anyone think there is any hope for me? I have had treatment in the past and it has not hurt, but I have never been able to conquer my fear and as such leave it as long as possible. I know I need work done but even though the appointment is a month away it plays on my mind constantly.
I hate the dentist and I have not even met him yet, and I will hate the people in the waiting room for putting themselves through torture without complaining.
Recently I accused my best friend of child abuse as he is taking his 13 year old to have teeth removed to have a brace. This caused a huge argument because naturally he feels he is doing the best for this son, and the son seems quite happy about it.
I on the other hand want to make him cancel the appointment so that the lad is not hurt. I thought about never speaking to him again as I see him as a 'child abuser' - stupid I know but just how I feel.
Can anyone relate to any of this or am I crazy? Only reason for it I can think of is my father insisting on pulling out my baby teeth and I can remember being restrained for this to happen and it hurting. Now I feel that the dentist is holding me down and deliberately hurting me. Never for one moment occurs to me that he is trying to help me, only that he wants to make me suffer.
Sorry - long rant - but would be grateful for anyone's thoughts.
Thank you.